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There’s A Bright Side?

2/27/2019

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Have you ever known anyone who is so negative it’s hard to be around them?  Do you ever find yourself in a rut of negative thinking and heaviness?
About twelve years ago, my husband Mark and I were on our honeymoon on the island of Maui in Hawaii.  We were so excited to start this time in our lives as a newly married couple and on our second night there, we went to a luau.  Neither of us had ever been and we looked forward to the dancing, eating Hawaiian food and spending a warm night by the ocean.
​When we arrived, we were given a fruity drink and guided to a table.  We sat close discussing our plans for the next few days as we people watched and breathed in the beauty of the scene and the sound of the waves.
And then (cue the frantic music from the Wizard of Oz whenever the Wicked Witch of the West appeared), we met Helen.  She plopped hard in her seat and threw down her drink and her purse on the table as she frantically looked around for someone else.  She sighed audibly, the kind where not just your breath comes out, but your voice too.  And then she looked at Mark and I with a forced obligatory smile and said, “Hi, I’m Helen.”
We introduced ourselves to which Helen replied, “Have you ever been to such a joke of an outfit?  This drink has no alcohol in it and I’m sure the food will be just as bad.  I should have known it would be a rip off when we had to pay for parking and couldn’t find a spot closer than the back forty!”
Mark and I had no words, so we just nodded.
Helen proceeded, “And then we had to switch hotel rooms twice because the first one was infested with spiders and the second one had a broken down air conditioner!  This was supposed to be a four star resort!”
After listening to her complain for about ten minutes, she asked where we are from.
“Minnesota,” we replied.
“Ugg… Minnesota, it’s so cold and snowy there!  I was on a layover in the Minneapolis Airport once and my flight was delayed because of a snowstorm.  Then she proceeded to talk about how, “they really need more restaurants in that airport!”
Scanning the area again for someone, she fretted, “I have no idea where my husband Stan is, but he went to the bathroom and hasn’t come back!”
In shock that this would be the energy of our whole evening, Mark and I couldn’t help but look at each other and laugh.  Just then a kind looking but somewhat stressed older gentleman sat down next to her and gave us a knowing smile.
“Hi, I’m Stan.  I see you’ve met my charming wife.”  And then he winked at us.
Later we both agreed… Poor Stan!  And, poor Helen who felt so crummy that she needed to express it at length.
When it comes to negativity, Helen is an extreme case, but we can all get a little negative at times.  Sometimes it’s warranted but sometimes that mindset can be hard to let go and once the flames are fanned, it can grow and impact not just ourselves but also those around us.
I invite you to think about the negativity in your day-to-day life.  Don’t judge yourself for having it. After all you’re only human, but just become more aware of it and consider joining me on a 7-Day Negativity Detox.
To detox your negativity, take 7 days and try your best to eliminate the following:
  • No complaining—including “venting”
  • No talking negatively about other people.  If you do talk about someone, point out what you like or love about him or her only.
  • No talking negatively about any aspect of your life unless you are planning a solution to address it. If you are planning a solution, make sure you get yourself to a high vibration (a better mood and energy) before you talk about the solution.  Otherwise you will not come up with the best solution.
  • No worrying about yourself or anyone else. If you find yourself starting to worry about someone, describe a positive outcome that will happen soon in his or her life.  For example, “Mom is going to get a clear mammogram at her next cancer screening.”
Worry is an attempt at controlling an uncontrollable situation. It actually holds you and others back and can result in a negative effect.
If you catch yourself doing any of the above, gently say to yourself, “I choose to create love and joy in my life” and replace the negative thoughts with positive thoughts that you write down. 
Examples of positive thoughts can include:
  • A joy filled memory
  • A self-love statement-stating aloud something you love about you

  • A thought that is the exact opposite of the negative thought
Finally, share with friends and family or even your co-workers that you are going on negativity detox and ask them to gently notice and let you know when you are focusing on the negative so that you can get back on track.  They may want to join you!
Good luck and be patient with your self in this process.  I just had to re-read that sentence to remind myself!  Don’t expect perfection.  It can take time to change your thought patterns, but with practice you will feel more peace and positivity in your life and you’ll spread that to others!
*The Negativity Detox is used with permission from the Global Association of Holistic Psychotherapy and Coaching.
 
Lynne Fredrickson is a life and wellness coach and founder of Lynne Fredrickson Coaching and Wellness Concepts, LLC. With over 25 years experience in Health and Wellness including a degree in Kinesiology and knowledge in the areas of cardiac and pulmonary rehab, prenatal exercise, spine rehabilitation, senior wellness and coaching clients in lasting behavior change, Lynne is passionate about helping people quickly release the anxiety that is holding them back and keeping them stuck.  She is a certified holistic life coach, certified health and wellness coach, certified personal trainer and strength and conditioning specialist. Currently, Lynne lives in Waconia, MN with her husband and her daughter who are the joy that fills her world.  Learn more about Lynne’s coaching and her signature programs at Lynnefredrickson.com
 

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